Pole Dancer Misconception #1
Pole Dancer Misconception #1
You wife (girlfriend) is a pole dancer, you are so lucky?
First, I have to give a great big thank you to all the amazing husbands or boyfriends’ who put up with a pole dancers new fitness obsession.
Why thank them first? Because many of them felt like they won the jackpot when they found out that their girl was going to be their very own private pole dancer and ended up sadly disappointed after a few weeks.
Of course they are lucky to have a pole dancer in their life and they will likely reap many rewards if they treat her right.
The problem lies in what they believe, “your so lucky,” means. My best guess is most men think we are going to come home from each class ready to show them some hot lap dance or a creative way to take off our clothes despite the fact we specifically inform them it is fitness not stripping.
What they get is us trying to calculate how many pull ups we are going to have to do to achieve a climb to the top of the pole.
Football VS Pole
The best way I can describe what happens to the men in our lives is to compare it to the traditional story of a man obsessed with football married to a woman who could really care less about football. The man wants to talk to his wife about all the great plays in the game while the woman tries to feign interest but fails miserably.
During football season the man spends more of his free time at games or in front of the television and he expects his wife to understand and/or eagerly participate. She can’t wait for football season to be over.
The main difference is the woman does not start with some sort of misconception that her husband’s football obsession will ever give her any special relationship benefits.
What He Thinks Will Happen
His wife comes home and tells him she would like to take pole dance fitness classes. She assures him she will not be stripping and that it is only ladies in the class. She is tired of her boring fitness routine this workout will likely make her feel sexy and confident.
Husband was sold when the minute he heard pole dancing class. As far as I can tell the man selectively hears the rest of the conversation a little more like this….
“Honey I want to take pole dance class it will help me get a super sexy body so I can do everything a stripper does but for your eyes only”.
He is thinking his wife is going to go to class and come home and show him all the sexy dance moves she learned and feel more confident about her sexuality. The man can’t see a downfall to this his wife will stay fit and behind closed doors she will be ……… well you get the picture.
What really happens…..
The wife signs up for pole fitness classes thinking she will get fit, gain confidence and feel sexier than ever before.
Guess what it happens!
The problem for the guy is that now she wants to talk about pole like he would about football, she wants to give him the blow by blow details about how she learned the latest pole move. She shows him her brusies and tells them exactly how she got them.
So not the sexy dancing he was expecting!
Then she wants to rearrange her schedule to take more classes. Then she wants to buy a pole to practice at home. Then she may even want to take more classes to cross train for serious pole moves.
When does she have time to dance for him?
The guy is left wondering what happened to that at home stripper! He is wondering if he will ever get to see his wife again since she spends all her free time with the pole! He may even be calling the pole her boyfriend after a few months.
There is no pole season so he can’t even look forward to the off season.
He may feel like he takes second place and pole takes first. He may feel so neglected he doesn’t even notice the subtle benefits he gets from being in a relationship with a pole dancer. He will miss that he has a stronger, more flexible, more confident woman by his side. He is lucky just not in the way he or his buddy.
Ladies don’t forget to make you guy feel special for supporting you and make sure you make some time for them. Don’t put pole first, I promise the pole won’t walk out on you because you took a night off to have a romantic evening with your man.
Men keep supporting you pole dancing gals and look for the subtle changes that benefit you love life. When you start to notice these changes shower you lady with compliments!
Stay tuned follow up articles to help avoid this little problem.
December 1, 2014 / / 2